What would you do? Serious help needed?

I have a 16 year old daughter who has a lot of issues the main one is she loves being the center of attention be it good or bad. She has been seeing therapists since age 9 for habitual lying, cutting for attention, each time she went to therapy the therapists all said the same thing that unless she was willing to admit she had a problem, they couldn't do a whole lot for her and that if the behavior continued into her teens, then I'd have a serious problem, well the behavior has continued into her teens, even with firm boundaries, set rules, consequences etc. Well, one month ago she stole Xanax and one of her friends alerted me to it. I had found out she had been taking then for at least three weeks. After a long wait in the ER, the doctors admitted her to the adolescent psych ward.She was there for 11 days, we welcomed her home but were very strict and did constant room checks. The psyche ward recommended her to a partial behaviorial problem where she could do regular schooling and have "intensive therapy". All she did was gossip about the other kids and whined about how "boring" it was and when could she return to regular school. She was out for all of eight days and even after keeping an eye on her, she stole about $150 worth of makeup from Rite Aid and CVS. She was not caught by the stores, but on room checks, I discovered the makeup. To try and deflect her responsbility she claimed she wanted to cut herself so she called the crisis hotline, we took her to the hospital and she thought she would go back to the original place, well since she was in the behavorial partial program, they admitted her to inpatient to the other facility. She has been there for two weeks, she hasn't faced her problems, won't own up to her responsibilities, continues to blames others and still gossips about the other patients. I demanded another evaluation, since they had diagnosed her with Bipolar II which is total bull, in my opinion, she shows no symptoms. They are going to release her Thursday, frankly I have had it with her behavior, I have an 8 month old and a 12 year old and she gets more attention than the two of them combined. It is not fair to the rest of the family so I feel my only option left is to send her to her biological father who will allow her to be as much of a mess as she wants to be, he thinks shoplifting and doing drugs is "normal teenage behavior", I've done my best to try and raise her right but I honestly believe that the first five years she was with him created the monumental brat that she is today, other than finding another treatment facility (I think these places are a joke) the only option is to send her to her dad, let him have some of the "Fun" and stress I've been dealingi with for the past 7 years. Opinions? Advice? Anything??